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Public-Speaking 🗣

Public·94 Speakers

Take-aways from last session:

Nervousness and excitement actually are actually the same feeling- a rush of adrenaline- the difference is that the former expects bad things to happen while the latter expects good things to happen.

Giving a speech is like flying a plane- we should take off smoothly, show our passengers amazing places, not have any turbulence (nervousness), and land smoothly in the desired location (achieving the goal of our speech).

The speaker and the audience are equally worthy of love and respect, but when giving a speech, we must embrace the elevated position of authority to keep our audiences' attention, and successfully transmit our ideas. No-one wants to listen to people who aren't confident in what they're saying because we might believe them, and thus be lead astray. (Imagine having to listen to a war-general who gives orders without confidence!!!) Humans have learned to overcome this by tuning out whenever someone isn't speaking confidently.

Those who embrace the authoritative position too much might lack the belief that everyone in the room is equally worthy of love and respect, and thus may believe that they are more worthy of love and respect than some others just because they're in a temporary position of authority. This may result in preachy and weird vibes, which can make the speech difficult to enjoy. If a speaker believes that they are more worthy of love and respect than their audience, the audience is likely to feel alienated and thus tune out, in the same why that some teenagers tune out to parents who give them orders- they probably believes they're inherently more worthy of respect than the teen just because they're in a temporary position of authority.

People who have trouble embracing the position of authority, and thus have trouble speaking confidently, probably believe deep down that they are less worthy of love and respect than some others, which is the same belief that the person who embraces it too much has, but it is being expressed in it's opposite form. Each case is imbalanced, and the way to come into balance is to view everyone (including oneself) as equally worthy of love and respect while fully embracing the authoritative position when the appropriate time comes. This results in the speaker feeling like they are among the people, and the people feeling like the speaker is one of them. And since the audience can sense that the speaker truly loves and respects them, they mirror this to the speaker and listen intently, and are much more open to absorbing new ideas.


Hello there and welcome to the public-speaking group. As I...


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